Dear Amy: My fiance “Albert” kept talking. He will talk about any subject, regardless of the situation or the audience.
He can tell endless stories-just one story after another. The subject doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter whether he tells the same story to the same person many times. He started, and didn’t stop until people finally walked away.
He can’t seem to read the social threads that indicate that people want him to stop talking.
The employer repeatedly condemned him for talking to workers on the job site and wasting their time.
If I invite a friend over, it doesn’t matter if we are chatting; he will interrupt and try to direct the conversation to a topic he likes.
I have stopped inviting my friend, because his behavior is annoying and embarrassing.
He complained that he has no real friends to do things, but, holy smoke, I may know why!
I cannot watch TV or listen to the radio because he is talking about sound.
Albert is really a good person, but I’m already afraid of going to parties with him, which makes me feel terrible.
I am worried that this is a mental illness.
Am I ridiculous, or does he have a question that a doctor or therapist can help?
Dear worry: If “Albert” behaves as extreme as you describe, then you should seriously consider your ability and willingness to deal with this noisy, intellectually insatiable partnership in the long-term.
Being with him has isolated you. His compulsive behavior will affect his career prospects and your relationships.
Yes, his non-stop talking may be the result of a solvable problem: extreme anxiety, bipolar disorder, Asperger’s disease or ADHD.
Continuous conversation may also be a way for a person to shut out one’s deeper feelings, covering old wounds or traumas.
Your fiance should be evaluated by a mental health professional. One way to solve this problem is to ask you to make an appointment with the therapist for pre-marital consultations for both of you.
Dear Amy: My fiance and I are getting married in September this year! We have issued a “Save Date”.
We decided not to invite my friend “Mark”, and I feel bad about it.
Mark has struggled with alcoholism for the past two years. I think I have done everything I can to help him on his journey. He has been hospitalized many times and has undergone hospital rehabilitation.
Before that, we had talked about being best man at each other’s wedding, but our relationship has changed.
I recently discovered through his family that he had moved out of my street a month ago. I tried to contact him, but he is not the best person to respond to text messages and phone calls.
My fiancee has many years of wisdom. She said that some friends are a season, some are for some reason, and some are for a lifetime.
However, I can’t seem to get rid of the inner feeling of not inviting him to our wedding. your advice?
Dear groom: Your girlfriend’s view of friendship is wise. Your inner feelings also convey a strong message to you.You have to pay attention
Understandably, you may not want the pressure and pressure of “Mark” to be the best man, but why not invite him to the wedding?
His illness has a great impact on all his relationships, but the cycle of alienation and self-isolation makes everything worse.
Your relationship is tense. You cannot cure his alcoholism. You may not even be able to help him, but it may be beneficial to both of you if you hang around.
Whether he can participate in the event is up to him.
Dear Amy: The “lost girlfriend” opposed the erotic decoration of her boyfriend’s roommate in their apartment.
If she doesn’t like it, she can stay away! Your suggestion to her is to suggest that they post Burt Reynolds’ nude photos as asinine!
Dear nausea: The late Burt Reynolds took part in the legendary nude photography of Cosmopolis magazine in 1972. Given that my roommate’s pornography is very tacky, I think this might be an interesting suggestion.
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