Dear baby: My daughter and I play ice cream in the zoo together. At the next table, a man was beating his daughter and yelling at her because he said no to his girlfriend.
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It’s hard to sit there and watch the father verbally and emotionally abuse an innocent 4-year-old child. Is there anything I can do?
Help in Utah
What a pity. The little girl who insulted and threatened him would not make her like or accept her girlfriend. In fact, the opposite is true.
Dear baby: My wife recently returned from a gold, silver, and coin merchant event and told me that she had sold an old gold coin for $5 (maybe lower than its value).
I was hurt, not only because I had a coin collection and was interested in knowing and seeing coins, but also because she didn’t seem to understand my disappointment and hurt. She is pleased to announce that she will use the proceeds to purchase exercise bikes.
I spent two hours walking to ease my emotions, and then skipped dinner because of a loss of appetite.
Sometimes, I feel that my feeling is not important to her-is it “her road or highway”. Should I let this incident continue, or does it require a long “critical conversation”?
Discount in Ohio
Dear discount: Of course, you should discuss this with your wife. That coin is just one thing. The fact that this coin was sold without consulting you in advance is more important than the statement that you sometimes think your feelings are irrelevant to her.
The key to a successful marriage is the ability to calmly discuss difficult topics. Your ability to connect with each other seems to need improvement. If you cannot resolve the problem between two people, you can ask a licensed therapist for help.
Dear baby: Recently, I married a beautiful lady who has three adult children. Her children are great, but they have a habit that bothers me. They call their mothers by their mothers’ names, and never call their mothers. I think this shows a lack of respect.
I thought about what to say to them, but I didn’t want to make a fortune from it. What do you think?
Mr. MISSOURI tradition
Dear Mr. phone: I am glad that you resisted the urge to judge the way your wife’s children treated her, and probably because they were still very young. People show respect for each other in the way they treat each other. It is their own business for them to call each other.
If your wife is happy and has a good relationship with the children, please keep your opinion on yourself.
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