Dear Amy: My husband underwent knee replacement surgery at the Catholic Hospital last week.
The first few weeks of his physical therapy were done in our home.
The first meeting is today.
Everything went well, and when it was time for her to leave, the therapist asked my husband if he wanted to pray with her. She said it all depends on him. He said yes, and she left with a brief prayer.
I was stunned. Is this something new?
Many healthcare professionals have met me, and no one asked me to pray with them.
We live in the Bible belt, so I think this may be related to it.
-I will pray by myself
Dear I will pray: My research on this has led me to read many studies on the practice of prayer between medical staff and patients. Although most of the content seems to reflect the attitude of patients asking medical staff to pray with them, one study reflects a similar situation to your husband. To quote a study published by the National Institutes of Health in 201
After the intervention, 78 patients completed the questionnaire and obtained quantitative data… In this sample, 88% of people accepted prayers, 85% of people accepted prayers, and 51% of people hoped every day prayer. As long as the clinician shows “true kindness and respect”, the patient can welcome prayers. “
Even if this is rare, I don’t think it’s unethical for healthcare providers to actively pray with patients, even in patients’ own homes. Doing so may help establish a connection between the therapist and the patient. Prayer can help relax the patient and “focus” his intentions on his health and recovery.
An offer may also feel coerced.
How does your husband feel about this approach? He should be ready to respond before the next date.
Remind you that this is his way of treatment, no matter what you think about it, HE will decide how to deal with it.
Dear Amy: My boyfriend and I often run into another couple in our favorite puddle.
They are very friendly and seem to like us very much, but as long as we see them, they are always farmed.
The husband will catch something and say it over and over again.
The last time we met them, he kept telling me not to cross my arm because it was a defensive position. He even yelled from the entire room.
I am 62 years old and I will cross my arms at any time. But more importantly, he made some very clear and sharp comments on my boyfriend’s body.
Yes, my guy is very good-looking, but it is totally inappropriate and creepy.
I am very grateful that my boyfriend did not hear, but I did.
How can I shut him down if it happens again?
Dear friends: Please note: People who wear beer glasses usually lack depth perception.
Just because the irritable couple es live with you and seem to like you very much, it doesn’t make you like them in return.
The best way to respond to a drunk person in a bar is to politely ignore him. I don’t recommend trying to reason with him or engage in any form of word games: this will only add firepower to his alcohol feedback loop; vice versa. This may also irritate him.
Next time when these two very friendly people plow into your hands while plowing, and you don’t like it, you can say, “We’re going to sit here now and have a private chat. You two must be careful to go home, Okay?
Dear Amy: “Calmerton of California” wrote when describing a zoom-based baby shower, which included more than 100 people!
For me, personal showers that are tolerable are food, snacks, drinks, and random things at your table.
Without these, this is just a problem to be solved.
No one can hold a virtual event with more than 30 people. This is annoying and unkind. Break it down into smaller events!
Dear Zoom: I continue to be shocked by the number of people some people know!
Yes, whether it is a virtual event or an actual event, a smaller event is much better.
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