Although millennials are determined to live in family construction, due to the 2008 financial crisis, there is a lack of paid family leave or affordable childcare and many anxieties about the state of the world. Now, they can list the “spend the pandemic” in the question that affects whether they want their children.
Despite early reports that the baby boom of coronavirus is expected, demographers believe this may be much less. With so many Americans unemployed or on vacation, few people will feel enough economic stability to establish a family. According to the latest analysis of the Gutmacher Institute̵
If your child seems to be weak before the coronavirus infection, then no matter how much you want to be a parent at some point, it may be unimaginable now. But on the other hand, the quarantine can adjust priorities and opinions. In Guttmacher’s research, nearly one-fifth of the respondents said that COVID-19 makes them want to have a child faster, or want to have more children.
Buster talked to four women about how COVID-19 changed its entrepreneurial plan.
For clarity, the interview was edited and organized.
Ally*, 33 years old, Missouri
I’m really not interested in the maternal industrial park of our culture. The idea is that you have to show a certain lifestyle in order to be a “good” mother. I think that if you don’t worry about getting your children into a preschool class that has a longer waiting list than Harvard, you’re doing something wrong, and used to make me give up the idea of having a baby. I used to think that being a parent meant changing my views on all these things, in the name of making me more selfish, and trying my best for my children. Even before the pandemic, climate change and social unrest gave me the feeling that everything in the world was not done yet. Previously, it felt like “The world is a bad place, but I can solve this problem by having no children.”
The pandemic opened a switch for me. It reminds me that we are all a group of people susceptible to illness and death. I feel like I can now turn my head to have a baby, because I understand better that I am part of this chaotic and wild circle. The pandemic and our understanding of mortality are greater than all of us, which is a fact of submission.
My husband and I stepped up to try to get pregnant because we were together more. It feels like surrendering and embracing uncertainty. Why Do not have kids?
Jaime, 32 years old, Georgia
We got married in December, when I was 31 years old, almost 32 years old. I think we are going to be pregnant for two years. We want to travel first. So that we can have a child close to 35 years old.
However, with COVID-19, my husband eventually lost his job, and our two-year plan was completely overthrown. Since the work he does in our residence does not have much work, we may move to another city work place.
The pressure of people I know and strangers to have a child makes me feel pressured. Because of my age, I may not be able to wait to have a baby again, especially because of COVID. But the feeling of bringing a baby into the world with so little certainty is frightening. When we don’t even know where we will live in a year, should we really have a child now? As everything went on, it postponed our schedule until we felt more comfortable.
But I want to know if I wait until 36 years old before giving birth to a baby, can I have another one? Can I even have the first one? I have undergone birth control surgery since I was 16, and now I am worried that I will never be able to have children.
Elena, 32 years old, California
I always wanted children. Then five years ago, my husband and I had a dog. I thought, “Oh, my God, this is a lot of responsibility.” We like to travel; we want to be able to do what we want when we need it. I am also worried about climate change. In the past five years, we have been saying: “We may not have children, but we will see. We reserve the right to change our minds.”
Literally, one week before the shutdown, my husband got the job he dreamed of, and he has been waiting for a lifetime. We started thinking about barely maintaining a livelihood, “How can we raise a child for this?” Say, “We can do this.” It started us to reconsider our position and consider trying. But now, who knows? Even before the pandemic, we were concerned about climate change and the impact of the current presidential administration on the world. It feels like if you have a pro-list about whether or not to have a baby, then the anti-list is growing.
The pandemic made no children feel lucky. I briefly thought I was pregnant last summer. If I have been there, I should have been in the spring. I have been thinking: “Thank God, I am not pregnant yet.” It is irresponsible to ignore what I think the world can solve.
Stephanie, 26 years old, Texas
I can’t wait to be a mother. People always ask me if my abortion job (I am an abortion storyteller or the abortion fund’s board of directors) conflicts with the behavior I want my child to have. I want to say: “I do want children, but according to my wishes.” If anything, this epidemic makes me realize how important family is to me. I have a mother, a sibling, but a very strange person, we often have to establish our own family.
I don’t know what happens if I want a child as a person. I spent a few months in an apartment where I live alone, so I realized that when it comes to children, I can do it myself.
The pandemic made me feel very desperate sometimes. There is too much economic uncertainty, people are not sure what is legal and what is not [in terms of abortion access], They are not even sure if they can leave the house. Nonetheless, it is good to know that someone is working hard to ensure that our society enables people like me (people who love and Latino and live in Texas) to feed their families.
*Name has been changed to protect privacy